If you haven’t realized yet, I like to talk about taking care of yourself, a lot. I mean, it’s a great skill to have tbh. But there’s another thing that I’ve always mentioned in my blog posts that I would like to take a chance to talk about now: inviting people into your life.
In a first glance at how human beings are, we are social creatures. The most basic social structure is a family, and an individual is then integrated into other social structures, like your job, clubs you are part of, hobbies you share with other people, etc. In most instances, our society only moves forward when people work together. Don’t get me wrong, as an individual, everyone has something to offer and is capable of making an impact in whatever arena they are passionate about, but I believe everyone’s impact is maximized when you team up with others and let them chime in in areas where we might not be as strong in.
Diving a little deeper though, people also play a role in your personal life. We all have a need to communicate our ideas and have someone listen to them. Even the most introverted person needs someone to talk to sometimes (believe me, I’m friends with him lol). We all enjoy sharing past experiences or creating new memories with another person, or a group of people, and everyone is grateful to have someone that will be around in moments of crisis. And when you allow it, people around you can help you achieve levels of freedom that you wouldn’t be able to get to on your own. How? Well, other people can see things you don’t.
Two of the most important people in my life are Brian and Cecilee (featured in the picture). They are like parents to me, and when I say parents, I mean the whole package, tough love and all lol. But seriously, I’ve discussed in previous blog posts (https://lalingthroughtheworld.com/2017/04/19/party-all-night-am-i-disconnected/) how I was caught in destructive behaviors before, such as codependency and people pleasing. If it wasn’t for these two, I would probably still be caught in them. They were the people that chose to love me even before I knew how to love myself, and got in my face and confronted me about unhealthy things I was doing, had the long, uncomfortable talks, walked me through learning how to love myself, were there for me when I was a complete mess, and did it all simply because they chose to love me. Inviting people into your life can be scary though: it requires letting your guard down and let someone know you, aka, being vulnerable, and you give people permission to get in your face and possibly hurt you for your own good. And in the end, it’s worth it. Their commitment to love me was greater than my fear of being judged. Living as a lone wolf is one way of living, but not nearly as fulfilling as having people around you to walk life with. I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for those two. How to build and attract relationships like that in your life? That will come on my next blog post, stay tuned!
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